Archive for Self-Development

focusing on a new season

// April 24th, 2009 // No Comments » // Self-Development

We’ve had a great Easter in church – exciting to see so many new faces around. One of the best things has been hearing about people who have literally walked in off the street because they have seen the huge billboard / sign that is hung up over the front of our building. One of the benefits of having a front that faces directly onto a busy dual carriageway!

The Big Getaway was fantastic as usual… even more so this year as everything just felt a little bit easier and more familiar at good old Cliff College. It probably also had something to do with the fact that we were sleeping in one of the Conference dorms near to the Conference Centre and I didn’t have to trek up the huge hill 10 times a day to the Main College complex. Not only that but all the memories of spending 2 years of my life in the college… kind of scrambles your brain. So this year I didn’t go anywhere near the College part and it felt like I was somewhere else completely!

But Easter is over for another year and now I’m looking towards the new season in the run up to our summer. There’s plenty to pack in from new Connect groups to relaunching our Friday night Youth at the Megacentre. Plus there’s the bLink Summit coming up, a special tour with Steve Kennedy from Australia and finally as we hit the summer – Summerfest is back!

If you’re not careful you can blink and miss plenty of stuff that is happening – which is why I’m really hoping to take some time this next week to get my head round everything and make sure that I’m fully focused and covering all the bases. That can be hard sometimes in leadership because there is SO much to consider as well as SO much needing to be done – but I guess the key to it all is MAKING the time to think and plan. It can’t just always be do, do, do – work isn’t just about being able to say you sat at the computer all day, or managed to paint the loos (which need doing when I think about it!). Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is actually to stop… and take stock. Make some plans, write some to-do lists, make a few phone calls and get everything clear and in order – and then get on with the do-ing!

What do you need to stop and take careful consideration of today? What’s crying out for some thinking time? Don’t put it off as often these things are the most important things to be considered!

Take time to think! Take time to focus on the new season!

the iPhone really has changed my life

// March 28th, 2009 // No Comments » // Self-Development

For all you religious types don’t worry… Jesus is still the biggest agent of change in me… But I have to say having an iPhone has made a huge difference in the way I work and communicate with others. Here’s a few thoughts how:

1 Personal study: when I study the Bible and prepare for preaching I love to search through the Bible to find similar instances of words and themes. BiP (Before iPhone) I would have to do this at home on a computer using something like Bible Gateway. But now.. AiP (After iPhone) I can access and search the Bible anywhere using the YouVersion app. Which means I can now sit out in coffee shops to prepare…. (which is where I am right now!)

2 Twitter: I love to twitter. BiP again i could only do this on the computer.. But now AiP I can keep uptodate any time of the day.

3 Social Networking: I love it that I can connect with people all day and share thoughts and photos whenever! (as long as I don’t forget my family)

4 Time Management: everything is now synced so i’m not keeping multiple calendars… Which hopefully means I’m never late! Plus our media team are now using Task2Gather.com for keeping track of all the jobs we have on the table… and of course there is a nice little Task2Gather app for the iPhone!

5 iPod: I never had an iPod BiP but now AiP I have one combined in my phone which means my commuting to Sheffield every week is never short of great podcasts to listen to…

6 Blogging: I’m actually writing this blog on my iPhone thanks to a Wordpress app…

7 Looking Cool: an iPhone certainly helps the image!!!!

So there is just a few ways in which this phone is really helping make me more productive and more connected to what God is doing in my world. I just need to stay off the games (all deleted!!) and make sure when I’m home I actually talk to my kids and don’t communicate with my wife via facebook!

Make technology your slave… And not the other way around!

finishing what you started

// September 24th, 2008 // 2 Comments » // General, Self-Development

I started this year with a whole bunch of goals and stuff I wanted to finally nail this year. Just personal growth markers that I really wanted to move forward in – stuff I knew wouldn’t be easy but would take some will power and discipline to sort out.

One of those areas was my weight. For the past decade it seems like I’ve added a couple of pounds a month as I’ve slowly risen from about 13stone when I met Gosia to over 18stone… Most people say I don’t look overweight cause I “carry it well..” but I really hate that thought. I don’t want to be carrying anything!

Anyhow – after seeing a couple of friends lose huge amounts of weight on the Cambridge Diet I’ve decided to put myself through it. Basically it consists of a selection of Soups / Shakes and Porridge that provide all your RDA nutrients and vitamins and some carbohydrate and protein – but effectively you only get 550 calories a day and before long your body starts to eat up the reserves. Plus on top of it all you need to drink 2.5 litres of water a day.

Well this is Day 2 of however many I need to do it for… (probably 2 months)… and it’s certainly a case for some serious will power! Especially when my office is a couple of doors away from the Conferencing Kitchen at the Sheffield Megacentre… with its trays of Conference Buffet food and… the smell… oh the smell…

The thing is it’ all about determination – I’ve determined to lose weight and now this is the final act. When I stood on the weighing scales with my ‘diet counsellor’ (oh yes – I have a diet counsellor) and I saw it flash up 18 Stone 11 Pounds… I thought flip! I really need to do this. Discipline is the fruit of determination. If discipline is bashed into you then you’re likely to rebel from it at some point. But if YOU can determine to do something then you will most likely accomplish it.

If you’re waiting for someone to show you how, sort you out, make you do what is needed etc. etc. then you’re likely to be sitting around doing nothing for quite some time. Even a personal trainer at the Gym will only help you when you DETERMINE to turn up for the sessions on a regular basis.

So I’ve determined to lose weight and that’s what’s stopping me right now from raiding the fridge and snaffling some crisps.

It’s certainly going to be an interesting few weeks – but hopefully you should see me shrink before your very eyes!

return to normal

// September 11th, 2008 // 4 Comments » // General, Self-Development

The last few weeks seem to have been absolutely rammed with work so huge apologises for not blogging. I am just about getting back into the swing of things as deadline after deadline begins to pass by – having been finally accomplished. This is indeed the life of a Pastor / Graphic Designer!

My youth pastor asked me the other day “how on earth do I manage everything?” after I’d made some comment about being run off my feet but still going. It’s an interesting thought – but I guess the answer is I don’t really think about it. Thinking about it would lead to such dead end cul-de-sacs of stupid questions (or whinges) such as “am I really coping?” – “should so much be expected of me?” – “my senior pastor doesn’t care enough for me and my family?” – “I don’t think I’m being paid enough to work so hard…?” – etc. after stupid etc.

The real answer I’ve found is to stop asking questions and get on with what you’ve been called to do! My passion is to build God’s church and so that will require me to do whatever it takes. The great thing is I have a God who cares about my family, who cares about my health, who cares about how I am doing and who cares about how much I get back from what I do… so why not leave those things in His very capable hands. That doesn’t mean I leave my brain at the door when planning my time… but it does mean that I know that for everything there is a season. Right now we’re in that pioneering and launching season till you drop… and my wife appreciates it and releases me to it – but October will soon swing round and we’ll start riding the wave of momentum that we created during the last season!

So – if you’re wondering how to cope with everything – stop wondering, stop wasting thinking time on it and just get on with it!

(If you’re married – pop into the Co-op on the way home, buy your wife some flowers, have dinner and then make sure you switch the channel to a good chick flick before you make your excuses and disappear into your office for a late night!)

Anyhow – back to work… I can’t spend all night blogging… (not just yet anyhow!)

surely I have better things to do than blog?

// August 6th, 2008 // 3 Comments » // Blogging, Self-Development, Social Network

One of the media guys in my congregation came up to me about a month ago to show me what he’d been working on. In his spare time (and I guess he has too much of it) he’s built an entire computer 3D model of the new Leeds Megacentre – but not in just any 3D software – he’s used the Level Constructor for the Half-Life game (a first person shooter). The result: you can view the building online, change layouts, decor, try out new floor plans in a 3D environment – and then run around like crazy shooting each other!

I shared this yesterday with one of our staff in Sheffield and she just said, “that’s sooooo Leeds!” For some reason that bewilders me (as if), the Leeds congregation of Hope City seems to have gathered a ‘nerd’ tag – probably a result of having the largest nerd in the church running it – me!

The thing is people see me using Facebook, Twitter, indulging my congregations nerdy whims and writing a Blog and just think, “well that’s Chris and he’s a nerd!”. But I thought I’d try and give some thinking to why I do spend so much time on these things.

There are some great blogs that have already written about why they love blogging so much. So as not to plagerise you can read what Pete Wilson from Cross Point Church, Nashville Tennesse has to say, or you could pop in on Church Marketing Sucks and see why they think you should be reading, “The Blogging Church” by Brian Bailey and Terry Storch – both seasoned bloggers. Or you could hang around some great blogs like Tony Morgan Live and Churchrelevance.com and see for yourself the benefits of engaging in the blogging world.

But what about me…

Well – let me try and sum it up as simply as I can:

Reason 1: Community

Everything has changed in the last few years. My Grandad used to connect with friends by writing a letter every six months summarising the family goings on. My parents still keep a list of all the friends they have met on their holiday travels and send Christmas cards out to each and everyone of them every year. But today if you make a new friend you facebook or twitter them (to name a couple of the social networking sites that now proliferate the net). The idea of community has changed. It used to be who you lived next door to… but now it’s about those who are connected to your world by so many other means than just sitting across the desk at work, or popping next door for a cup of sugar.

I like to facebook, twitter, blog (let’s call it FTB for now) – because its my way of generating community around me. Especially in a church of over 1000 people it’s a great way of keeping in touch with the Jones’… catching up on who’s going out with who, ahhing at the latest baby photos and generally swapping jibes with the lads. I like to blog to allow others to stick their nose in my world and see what I’m doing, how am I dealing with the challenges that face me, what am I reading, watching, surfing etc.

For me I have a whole host of mentors who don’t even know it – but everyday when I read their blogs they are inspiring, challenging and motivating me to be all that God has called me to be. They’ve become part of my glocal community…

Reason 2: Conversation

I don’t just want to be friends with people – I want to join in a conversation with them. The thing I like about FTB’ing is that its not some voyeristic way of spying on people – used properly its an opportunity to engage people in a conversation. So people write prokoking status lines to encourage some kind of response because they are looking for some conversation – people write challenging blog posts because they’re looking for a heap of comments back so that they can continue the conversation – people direct twitters at others so that they can engage you in a bit of light conversation…

The success rating I’m basing my blog on is not how good my posts are or how many pageviews and visitors are logged in my stats – but how many comments people are making. Because I’m interested in some comeback – some additional thinking – an argument or an encouraging reply. So if you’re reading this – leave a comment and let me know what you think! Let me know what you do to engage others in Community and Conversation.

I posted a skype conversation the other day and someone challenged me on the whole issue of tithing. I loved it because it required me to engage, think and process what I really believe God says through His word.

Reason 3: Conversion

Everything I do sits on one purpose: 1 Timothy 1: 15 says: “Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners..” Jesus Christ came to save souls – so everything I do is about seeing lives transformed by the saving grace and power of Jesus Christ. If through my FTB’ing someone might see something of my life that points them to Jesus then that will be the ultimate success of all I do. I may never know the results until I’m Heavenside but I’ve set apart my life to do ALL I can to see the light of Christ turned on in people’s lives! And FTB’ing is free and simple to do – it’s not the ALL in ALL way of reaching people for Christ – but it is one more way in which I can engage this world I am living in. After all – you’re reading this aren’t you? So do you know Christ? If not then maybe you’ll start a conversation with me regarding why you would want to anyway!

So there you go – hope that makes sense now – but that’s why I’m starting on this journey….

Oh – and don’t forget to join in the conversation!

can it really be that simple?

// August 2nd, 2008 // No Comments » // Book Review, Evangelism, Self-Development

I’ve just started reading Bill Hybels latest book, “Just Walk Across the Room: Simple Steps Pointing People to Faith”. I say just started reading – but I started yesterday and I’m already a third of the way through because it is that inspiring, challenging, moving, provoking…

I actually had to put it down for a minute early this afternoon. I was sat reading it in a Playcentre whilst my son was playing and I felt such a touch of the Holy Spirit, provoking, proding, convicting me (righteously – not with guilt) about how I really need to change the way I approach evangelism in my life that I was about to bust into tears… (something I regularly do – much to the enjoyment of my congregation – when I sense the Holy Spirit at work).

The thing is – Bill Hybels is writing about something so simple – the simple concept that all it takes is for us ‘Christ-followers’ to step away from our Circles of Comfort and take a walk across the room to engage people who mingle around our world. How else can we share the incredible nature and power of God’s love and grace if we don’t make the effort to actually connect with someone. It’s not rocket science and yet every born-again Christian will say Yes to the need to share Jesus with the world, but still never make that one move out of comfort that may just open the doors, or sow a seed for someone to step into eternity. It’s so simple… yet why don’t we do it!

This book is incredibly practical and insightful as to how we must approach evangelism in our culture and society today. I couldn’t do justice to summarise it here – but let me say if you’re going to read one book this year then read this one and it will totally redirect the outward focus of your Christian life and liberate you to see that evangelism isn’t about gifting, crusades, great apologetics and deep theological expositories – it’s just about you being open to allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in building bridges across which the truth of the Gospel can carry lives into eternity…